Sebagai mantan mahasiswa psikologi, seneng baca artikel2 ttg org 'sakit jiwa' (does it sound like a defense? hehe ...). Kmrn aku baca sesuatu yang menarik ... :
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...... "It's difficult to be married to a wonderful guy whom I love and respect, yet he has little interest in intimacy. We've slept apart for 15 of our 16 year marriage, with occasional sex. We get along well, share similar interests, rarely argue. But in the bedroom, the deep sadness I feel has become more than I can bare. Everyone thinks we're the perfect couple, and it's all a sham. I've had several deep heart to heart talks with him about my needs, only to have a loving, polite "we'll work on this" response, and no change in the relationship at all. Being lovingly ignored is agony, there is no place to release my frustration. I have finally accepted the fact that my husband and I are just wired differently. It doesn't mean he is a bad person, it doesn't mean he doesn't love me. It just means he shows love differently and has different needs than I do. Having said that, it also doesn't mean I can live like this for another 15 years. That's where the sadness comes in. I don't want to leave him and give up the life we've built together, but this is a big part of life, and not having it is a big price to pay."
......... I'm starting to believe that maybe I'm not the only wife out there sobbing in her pillow every night ........ there's so many kind of troubles around a marriage to enjoy...... so, just face the pain to taste the sweet (S. Dewajani.... aku ambil quote-mu Say!)
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